It happens that the child does not adapt well to the school. For various reasons, he does not fit into the school rules, can not study himself and interferes with others. Parents in despair: like a child as a child, quite clever, but at the same time solid deuce and disappointment. Xenia Burton, armed with research, literature and her own experience, talks about the behavioral problems of hyperactive children and what to do with them.
To describe this problem, a “fashionable diagnosis” – ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is often used. We, however, will not use this clinical stamp.
First, hyperactivity and impaired attention are not always go hand in hand. Problems are completely different, and attention deficit needs to be discussed separately. Secondly, even the most advanced physicians at the moment do not have consensus about the criteria of ADHD, nor about what to do if the diagnosis is made.
In the US, the WWK3 protocol is used, according to which children with diagnosed hyperactivity are treated with ritalin (methylphenidate – a drug-stimulant). But according to some research (for example, according to Australian scientists), Ritalin with ADHD is ineffective for a long time.
Another main drug for the treatment of ADHD is atomoxetine, which we know as the Strattera. The drug is quite effective, but it causes some side effects like nausea, a sharp decrease in appetite, a slowdown in muscle mass growth etc.
How, then, can we personally mitigate the manifestations of hyperactivity in a child and help him to adapt in school, if his features interfere with learning and communicating the way most of his peers do?
Here’s an extreme fidget. He runs around, swinging in his chair, waving his arms, constantly chatting, does not want and can not listen to a teacher, read a textbook, normally write in a notebook. But it makes it difficult to learn from others. At the same time, he often lags behind in emotional development: he only knows how to “run with the boys”, but he does not have enough patience to at least somehow adjust himself, listen to a friend. And because he does not manage to make friends.
Teachers from him groan, peers quickly begin to be considered a jester or even an outcast. The intellect can be high or normal – but the endless vanity, running, jumping and yelling just do not allow the child to prove himself.
How can we determine our position regarding the teaching of our active child in school? Also what it is necessary to do? These tips are based both on the personal experience of the author, who brought up the hyperactive child, and on various literature. In particular, – the excellent book “Children-mattresses and children-catastrophes” by psychologist Kate Mirach.
A hyperactive child needs to continue to lead a “school lifestyle” for up to ten years. He can not be a small manager, who has all the days painted on mugs and sections. You can not leave it on the extension, if there is no daytime sleep. Afternoon rest, walking, cooking lessons, quiet games and sleep – just like that.
At the rise at 7.30, the hyperactive junior student should “turn off the light” at a maximum of 21.00. And before that – 20-30 minutes to lie in bed and read, draw or listen to an audio-book.
2. No sport
A common misconception about a hyperactive child is that he simply “needs to run out and get tired” that if he is “put into sports, he will waste his excessive energy and become like a silk one.” In fact, he does not have much power, he just can not stop. And there is absolutely no endurance.
If such a child is an additional excitement and “run out”, you can get only evening tantrums: wildly tired, but still raging until I fall.
In addition, sport just does not require an uncontrolled, but accurately measured energy flow. A hyperactive child and at a household level can not direct his energy. It is better to choose such sections, where the main focus is not the result, but the process, the alternation of load and relaxation. They can be athletic, but certainly not professional.
3. Not slower, but more rhythmic
In a hyperactive child, impulses between the cortex and the sub-cortex of the brain, regulating activity and inhibition, are slower than necessary.
Paradoxical as this may sound, a hyperactive child is somewhat inhibited. He quickly thinks, but even more quickly exhales, and therefore just does not have time for himself
This is a fast, but “torn” contact, a flashing light. Our main efforts should not be directed at something to slow down or purposefully calm, but rather to make the child in all respects more fluid, rhythmic. Less “pulled”.
This is also served by the same regime (a cyclically repeated cycle of activities – duties, practices, types of rest), and small cycles during the preparation of lessons (if every three or five minutes are distracted according to plan, and not spontaneously – then gradually learn to work these three Minutes are no longer distracting).
The main idea is to find a rhythm in any activity, to replace the rhythm with involuntary convulsive “inclusions” into activity and “shutdown” from it.
4. Work with rhythm in school
Here, experienced teachers usually have their own receivers. They know that the child must be thrust out three times a lesson under some pretext, to the board or into the corridor. And that James will be less disturbed if you give him a separate assignment and do not pay attention to the fact that he swings on a chair during the control.
If the teacher does not come up with anything like this, let’s take the initiative in our own hands. Agree with the teacher, for example, that the child during the lesson could leave the class a couple of times for five minutes. A child put a timer on the phone – but not with an audio signal. Sometimes this “short rhythm” is enough to make the behavior significantly improved.
5. How can it be more careful with ratings
It is necessary for all children, but for those who have problems with behavior and diligence – first of all. Instruct the child that he is not what he was given, whether it be an evaluation or a diagnosis. And not the way he was called or nicknamed. He – not the sum of his features and oddities.
It is necessary to contrast the school’s reputation of the child with something strong and powerful. Of course, it is ideal to teach the child in such a place, so that he does not have a similar reputation at all. But it does not always work. In any case, beyond the threshold of the house – no assessments, reproaches and endless “what are you …?”. What is, such and glory to God!
If a hyperactive child grows in an atmosphere of constant dissatisfaction, it is more difficult for him to compensate for his features.
And they start to add others: the craving for dangerous extreme, aggressiveness, addictions, strong mood swings. So from the school it should be protected, serve as a buffer, and whenever possible choose soft, cheerful and understanding teachers.
6. Give the control panel in time
A hyperactive child can not ensure to himself a constant inclusiveness (see point two). Therefore, the parent must form around him a magic box, including and turning it off manually, but allowing gradually to form endurance and assiduity. These things really get stronger through long trainings.
Here we have started a tomato for ten minutes, and we know for sure that these ten minutes the child will sit quietly and with our hand on his head solve the equations. The tomato rattled, the child received a small encouragement, then five minutes rummaged on the rings – and again ten minutes of mathematical imprisonment under the hypnosis of the parent.
But as soon as the parent notices that the child is already able to provide himself this rhythm himself, he hands the control panel to the child himself. It is extremely important to help him to maintain his own rhythms. To do this, you can adapt a variety of techniques. From the board, where you can mark the cases done by plus signs, to the mentioned tomato or timer on the phone.
An extremely important task is to transfer a hyperactive child to self-sufficiency.
After all, if we continue to manage it manually, we inevitably get to the extreme, and even babies baby. And if you just give up, then … someone will come out, and someone will go so that it will be hard to catch up later. No, I’m not talking about evaluation, but about mental health, addictions, way of life. Hyperactive children in the risk group by many parameters.
7. Look at yourself
Very often, hyperactive children are born with hyperactive parents. If this is about us, then we will reflect on our own habits and on those techniques that help us to still adapt in society.
In hyperactivity, in fact, a lot of pluses, especially at the present time. The adapted hyperactive person is quicker to understand, easily switches (while the unadapted hyperactive switch does not know how). And though quickly gets tired, but quickly and rest.
A short time project manager, an intra day trader, an easy-going journalist, a freelancer whose legs are fed, a lover of regular business trips (to come and sleep off for a day) – hyperactive livers with the ability to manage their uneven flow of energy can quickly and easily turn off a variety of mountains . But it is very important to learn how to properly handle your characteristics, so that they do not develop into pathology, but, on the contrary, make a person more effective.